how to spot it & what to do

At work, I sit down to reply to an email.

They are asking for my creative input.

“What do you think?” they say.
“Could you write something for this?” they say.

I squeeze out a few words.


Try again.



Still doesn’t sound right.

I go back to…

When you’re in the throws of an unhealthy relationship with food, your body & exercise, all movement is just about calorie burn.

And all food is just about calories.

And all bodies are just about size.

Anything that does not (in your mind) directly contribute to your goal of getting smaller, leaner, thinner — is hardly useful.

For years, I missed out on morning walks, evening walks, walks with friends, walks with…

(Hint: it’s not bubble baths & wine)

“I am more myself when I take care of myself.”

How obvious is this yet how often overlooked?

It is as true as it is forgotten,

as simple as it is made difficult:

We cannot be any more ourselves than we allow ourselves to be.

Our selves can only thrive if we feed them,
nurture them,
care for them.

You are more yourself — most yourself — when you take care of yourself.


I just needed a new pair of shorts & all I got was lowered self-esteem

It was Saturday morning. We were at the local outlet mall. And I was about to try and make friends with my body, again.

I am a 5 foot 2, curvy, 25 year old white female. It’s summer. And I need a pair of jean shorts.

That’s all.

Coincidentally, my…

It’s hard to see when you’re white, but it’s still real.

I remember when a friend of mine got glasses for the first time in elementary school.

She came back to school and said, “I didn’t know everyone was actually seeing the individual leaves on the trees!”

This morning, I was running without a shirt on on my usual trail.
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As a female, alone, I am always vigilant & aware of my surroundings.
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I saw a gathering of construction men (all white, if it matters) leaning against their work truck in the middle of the trail in…

Think it’s just a glass of wine? Think again.

“I drink every night,” she said.

She’s a middle-aged woman.

She works 9–5.

Her kids are out of the house.

After a long day (or any day) she likes a good glass (or 2) of wine to unwind.

Harmless enough, right?

Let’s Say This Instead

“Shut up, you are not fat!” I said.

But it’s not what I wanted to say.

It’s just what I felt socially obligated to say.

I’ve been in this situation dozens of dozens of times.

A woman standing before me as a client or sitting across from me as a…

Many Women Will Never Experience This Freedom

“See?” she said, squeezing the backside of her arm and looking at herself in the mirror, “I just want it to look like that all the time.”

The personal trainer side of me was frustrated with this comment. …

You can eat well & exercise all you want, but if you don’t have a healthy lifestyle, does that really matter?

The world is rampant with health advice.

You can’t even check out at the grocery store without seeing at least 5 magazine covers about the latest “diets,” “superfoods,” workout trends or anti-aging juices and gels.

Health advice — good & not-so-good — is everywhere, and while the bombardment comes from a place of (mostly) good intentions, much…

Emily Jordan

Women’s Health Consultant | runner · lifter · creator · laugher |

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