At work, I sit down to reply to an email.
They are asking for my creative input.
“What do you think?” they say.
“Could you write something for this?” they say.
I squeeze out a few words.
Still doesn’t sound right.
I go back to the email.
I type a few sentences.
It takes me 30 minutes.
And it feels like molasses.
And all food is just about calories.
And all bodies are just about size.
Anything that does not (in your mind) directly contribute to your goal of getting smaller, leaner, thinner — is hardly useful.
For years, I missed out on morning walks, evening walks, walks with friends, walks with myself, because I feared they did not burn enough calories to move the needle forward on my mission to become smaller.
(I suppose, if we take the “needle” metaphor literally, what I really wanted was for it to move backward, but, you get my point.)
How obvious is this yet how often overlooked?
It is as true as it is forgotten,
as simple as it is made difficult:
We cannot be any more ourselves than we allow ourselves to be.
Our selves can only thrive if we feed them,
care for them.
take care of yourself.
for better or for worse, we are counting on your Self to show up.
That’s why this is a big deal.
That’s why being your Self matters.
It’s not trendy self care for engagement and likes.
It’s not bubble baths and wine
It was Saturday morning. We were at the local outlet mall. And I was about to try and make friends with my body, again.
I am a 5 foot 2, curvy, 25 year old white female. It’s summer. And I need a pair of jean shorts.
Coincidentally, my boyfriend is also in the market for a new pair of shorts today. For (sad) humor & comparison sake, here’s the story of him shopping for a new pair of shorts.
Me: “You need some new shorts. Those have a huge hole in the butt.”
Michael: *looks at tag in…
I remember when a friend of mine got glasses for the first time in elementary school.
She came back to school and said, “I didn’t know everyone was actually seeing the individual leaves on the trees!”
This morning, I was running without a shirt on on my usual trail.
As a female, alone, I am always vigilant & aware of my surroundings.
I saw a gathering of construction men (all white, if it matters) leaning against their work truck in the middle of the trail in front of me.
As I got closer to them, per usual, I lowered the volume on my music (I feel safer when I can hear) & prepared myself to be stared at & potentially cat-called, because this is just what happens to you as a female in the world sometimes.
She’s a middle-aged woman.
She works 9–5.
Her kids are out of the house.
After a long day (or any day) she likes a good glass (or 2) of wine to unwind.
Harmless enough, right?
“Shut up, you are not fat!” I said.
But it’s not what I wanted to say.
It’s just what I felt socially obligated to say.
I’ve been in this situation dozens of dozens of times.
A woman standing before me as a client or sitting across from me as a friend is telling me how she needs to lose weight, how out of shape she is, how fat she feels, how unattractive her body is, and by social norms and standard procedure I am to continually disagree and then affirm her by saying things like:
“You don’t need to lose…
“See?” she said, squeezing the backside of her arm and looking at herself in the mirror, “I just want it to look like that all the time.”
The personal trainer side of me was frustrated with this comment. But that side was quickly silenced by the other half of me that could empathize all too easily with what she was doing.
How many times had I stood sideways in the mirror and sucked in my stomach, wishing to look that way normally?
How many dressing rooms had I been in, desperately searching for a pair of jean shorts for these…
You can’t even check out at the grocery store without seeing at least 5 magazine covers about the latest “diets,” “superfoods,” workout trends or anti-aging juices and gels.
Health advice — good & not-so-good — is everywhere, and while the bombardment comes from a place of (mostly) good intentions, much of it fails to address the part of health that happens outside of the gym & kitchen.
Here are 5 healthy things I do that have nothing to do with food or fitness.
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